Unless your "friends" are the JW, SW or WM, there is absolutely no way they know. As those 3 are the only ones that check the ballot box.
Any any that would disclose the number of blackballs do not deserve to sit in their respective chairs.
I have received 6 Blackballs
The reason for my blackballing is because someone from the other lodge has complained about me.
What can I do to join again?
Do I have to ask permission from the lodge I was blackballed in that i would be joining another lodge?
In my jurisdiction we know if there was only one black cube or more than one black cube. If there is only one black cube a second ballot must be taken to insure that the black cube was not a mistake. If there is more than one black cube there is no second ballot. However, we can not know how many more than two black cubes there are.Practices vary with jurisdiction and lodge. But, I agree, there is no legitimate way the petitioner would know how many black balls or cubes were dropped. In my former lodge the master would simply say "cloudy" for one ball or "dark" for more than one. But just one was enough to reject.