They may be trying to deter you from you joining to see how serious you are about it. A lot of folks join or do things on a whim. Masons do, or should at least try to, guard their 'gates' to not allow men in that will ultimately get out or not take it seriously. Not saying you are that way, but many men that want to join do it for the wrong reasons.Masons i know here in Lagos are not that friendly to non-mansons like me who are eager to join the freemasonry. They feel too big to relate with, especially issues like this. Once they sight you, they already know what you want and why you are here. I am speaking from experience. I currently work for a freemasonry member at his private home.