Did you ever join OES? I went through with my wife this past year and I really enjoyed it. I actually found the ritual pretty fascinating. I've been focusing my research elsewhere, but there are a few aspects that I am dying to dig into. Well worth the minimal due fees.
I have actually not been able to be active in it...yet. My wife had to have a pretty serious medical procedure and they also meet on my Scottish Rite night. I am probably going to take my wife to visit another Chapter. I'm curious to see how a meeting runs with a larger core group. Mine is active, but it didn't seem thick on regular members attending. I thought I would hit every other one, but I enjoy Scottish Rite fellowship too much to miss a meeting... :-(