What your view offers is not what they seek.
In business there's a concept of satisfying a client's requirements. Sometimes that means doing what the client wants. Sometimes the client asks for something that doesn't make sense on the surface and it's time to step back and ask "What are you actually trying to accomplish?"
There is an issue of accessibility. I'm currently in San Antonio, TX which is not a large metropolitan region. Our airport isn't even a regional hub. Here is San Antonio I can offer contacts for a list of recognized Masonic related orders that do admit women. I can list both Prince Hall and "George Washington" branches all a easy local commute to get there.
In comparison the nearest CoMason lodge to where I am appears to be in Chicago, and the nearest female only lodge to where I am might be in Los Angeles. Either one of those is an extremely long way to go in comparison to a local commute. The only female CoMason I know that I've met took her degrees in England before she moved to the US. The only female Mason I know that I've met took her degrees in Los Angeles and was attending a lodge social not wearing any regalia just as I would not wear any regalia should I attend one of her events.
So it becomes time to ask the question "Is it worth it to you to take a 3 hour flight to get the *real thing* when you can get membership in one of our orders closer than across town?"
We haven't even gotten to the question of what the expression "real thing" means here. In the context of distance does it make any sense at all to tell a women to go somewhere other than local? Who's going to be able to fly 3 hours each way every month to attend most of the meetings? In comparison to who's going to be able to drive to a place that isn't even across town every month to attend most of the meetings? What really are the requirements here?
And then we get to the next level. Are lodges of CoMasons and female only obedience the "real thing". On a social level I can say they are. On a lodge level I can't. They are real in the sense they teach the same lessons that I learn at my lodges, but that's also true of the Star and Amaranth chapters a short drive away. But while I can attend their social events just like I can go to church socials of someone's religion other than mine, I'm never going to try to cross their tiler so I'm never going to be able to attend a tiled event together with a woman who flies out to petition one of these lodges.
Why is a woman asking for the "real thing" anyways? I can hand her a can of soda and do that, knowing full well it's an answer that is technically truth but fundamentally irrelevant. But isn't taking a 3 hour flight to a group I can never attend just as fundamentally irrelevant?
Life's not fair. Woman can't join my lodges. The fact that women can join some other lodges out there somewhere often isn't the question that's really being asked.
Can a woman become a Mason? The answer may be yes, but most of the time that answer is theoretical and rather irrelevant. That answer doesn't satisfy the requirements most of the time. There's no getting past that. There exist female only groups that I can't join. That's not fair either. Sometimes women want a local answer - Go local go Star. Sometimes women want a theoretical answer - Get on a plane and fly to a lodge that admits women. Sometimes women want a fairness answer - There are female orders that won't permit me to be a member so that balances the issue out. Somethings women want a sympathy answer - Life's not fair. Folks get in our way all the time. I know how you feel. I used to feel that way. I found there isn't any real answer to this mystery of life.