Well said, Brother. You captured my thoughts in your post much more clearly and eloquently than I could. Thank you.No conundrum for me.
We also have "ancient penalties" which now act as symbols - just as head gear does. I would not offend a brothers religious needs in order to comply with a symbolic masonic practise in a lodge room which vary the world over and can be changed at the whim of a GM or ritual committee and in many countries are not prescribed. Ritual books and traditions are not some sort of unflexible rite, they are a tool to teach and as such we should not get hung up on them but use them to TEACH ... and here, I would teach TOLERANCE AND ACCEPTANCDE AND FLEXIBILITY AND RESPECT – where hating wearing fell out at the end of all that is not really that important to me and I am sure the GAOTU does not give a flip beyond treating each other well.